Over the years, we have all probably encountered a lot of “yes-men" who agree with just about everything. Generally, they are seeking your approval for something, are selling something, or are just afraid to offend in any way. I don't recall that we have ever coined the term "no men" who are disagreeable with everything. These people may have been labelled grump or cranky or ornery, but I don't think there is an equivalent to the “yes-men" label.
The principal reason we don't recognize the “no-men" category is because it is a lot more difficult to say no to a request than to say yes. If we are required to deny a person a request then it is expected that an explanation or a rationale will be presented for the decision. People who have had a question, request, application or a demand countered with a negative response will expect an answer to "why not?". It is therefore far easier to simply provide a positive response and thus not need to elaborate.
This life lesson was driven home to me early in my teaching career when I was a principal for the first time. My immediate line-officer phoned me to ask about my current vice principal who was being considered for a promotion to a principalship the next year. My "boss" indicate that he had only one question that he wanted me to answer. He asked me if my vice principal was able to say, "No". I indicated that he could and that was the extent of the phone call.
Upon hanging up, I reflected that that was a very bizarre single question. Then as I thought about it, I realized the power of the question. Anyone who is in a position of authority, whether a parent or a principal, must be able to deny a request or just say no. It is often very difficult to tell someone they cannot get a driver's license yet or a person was not going to get a promotion. Feelings are often hurt and the bearer of bad news or negative responses must be able to recognize it is all part of life.
Being able to say “no” during difficult situations is one of life's hard lessons.
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